EnterCourse.TV: Sex Tips Episode 008 "Talking Dirty"
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Welcome back to "Sex Tips" This week, we're talking dirty, here's the situation: There you are, at the line of scrimmage, totally naked, about to jump into bed with hot guy or girl you've had you're eye on for a awhile. And you still can't even work up the courage to tell them what all you'd like to happen. Your soon to be sexual partner obviously can see what you're bringing to the party, there's nothing really left to hold back or be embarrassed about, so why are so many people so shy? According to recent studies, only four in 10 respondents say they have asked their lovers for something in bed in the past month. Now either 60 percent of you have found partners who are psychic or a lot of you just aren’t saying anything. Many people worry that a request can sound like an implied criticism, as if "Could you swirl your tongue slowly counterclockwise" will be heard as "Why can’t you do it right?" Or "Do you think you could wear thin glasses and a plaid skirt marked with chalk dust and act like my seventh-grade algebra teacher?" will be heard as "You are so boring, I need you to be somebody else to get excited." So, as always, here are some tips to help you approach the situation: When speaking, start with one sentence, something as simple as letting them know how much they turn you on. It doesn't HAVE to be a vivid description of body parts, and that is actually what causes the most hesitation for beginners. Eventually you may need to be very specific about what you want. First start out by asking yourself what it is you really want before you ask your lover. Vague things like “more” or “better” aren’t too helpful. Don’t expect your lover to read between the lines. If you want a blowjob, ask for it. If you want it harder, softer, faster, slower, say it. Dirty talk is all about emotions. When you're having sex, you're obviously already turned on, so the whole idea is to make the experience as hot as possible for both you and your partner. And this is where the whole thing becomes more individual. Some girls like it rough, some like to be treated like a princess, and some like to take control and totally own the other person. It's very important to know your partner's limits, because saying something they consider outrageous can kill a mood really quickly. Well that's it for this edition of "Sex Tips", I hope this has been a good start for your dirty talking adventures. I'm Justine Sane and keep those questions coming to justine@entercourse.tv, see you next time!
| Credits: | Justine Sane, Jake Marsh, Pedro Amador |
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| URL: | http://entercourse.tv/sextips |
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